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Cathy,
(not her real name) a coaching client,
wanted support to overcome some inner
resistance she was feeling about moving
her new business forward. A couple of
weeks into the coaching process, a
personal crisis erupted in her
relationship with her significant partner.
She felt she needed to end the
relationship and would have to shelve the
new business for a while.
Cathy
said that she has never been able to
"stand up for herself" in a relationship.
Over and over she has found herself in the
same unrelenting cycle: unable to talk
about aggravating incidents and behaviours
and then tolerating and stewing about them
until they became unbearable. Eventually,
she would feel like the only solution
would be to end the relationship. And now
it was appening once again. She
was acutely aware of her repititive
pattern: It upset her, but she just didn't
know how to change it even though she
wanted to.
We
talked about LOA - and it resonated with
her. I offered her some tools -
the T-Tool, Raising Vibration Statements,
and using the Emotional Scale to reach for
a better thought-feeling.
It
was a really tough week for her with other
serious issues arising as well. However,
she persisted. She used the tools, several
times. And, she noticed that it was
essential to sit down and do the writing
-not just think about it.
To
her surprise, she easily and calmly
confronted her partner and was
able to tell him what she needed in the
relationship. Her clarity and openness
also helped him to speak openly and calmly
about where he was coming from. For the
first time, they were able to communicate
in a way that that allowed them to break
the destructive pattern which was leading
to their separation. And Cathy is feeling
better about her partner than she has in a
long time.
Knowing
how to deliberately reach for a better
thought-feeling has been a life changing
discovery for Cathy (and me
too).It is truly liberating to
learn that we are capable of changing our
vibrations to more positive ones, to have
the tools to do so, and to change what we
are attracting into our
lives.
Cathy
is now back at moving her business forward
with renewed enthusiasm and
energy.
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