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Resistance or Creative
Acceptance
© Copyright 2005 Rebecca Hanson
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Resistance
is not a new word, but for many of us awareness of
resistance is new. In Webster's Collegiate
Dictionary, resistance is defined: "to
withstand, to strive against, to exert force in
opposition, to counteract, defeat or
frustrate."
Resistance
is useful if there is a flu or virus around. If
your body's immune system is working as it should,
you'll have good "resistance to disease"--you'll
stay healthy. Resistance to the temptation to do
something that goes against your core values will
strengthen you, while giving into that temptation
will weaken your character.
Resistance
can be an indicator that something isn't quite
right for you, at this time. It's good
to notice resistance and to ask yourself, "Why am I
experiencing this resistance?"
There's
another side to resistance. The other side
of resistance destroys the very thing that we
desire. This resistance arises from a dislike
for change. Humans are sort of strange in that we
offer a desire to the Universe, and then we resist
the very changes this desire sets in motion. For
example, when I offered my desire to become
financially independent, I didn't realize that the
answer would come in the shape of loss of income
from my former spouse. But it did. When I asked for
financial independence I had a different scenario
in mind that went something like
this: "My business income will increase
steadily until it reaches a certain amount,
then the spousal support can decrease."
The
Universe responded to my desire--just not as I had
expected--and I resisted the change. The
Universe knew that in order to become independent I
had to first BE independent. I wanted the
security of spousal income, but that emotional
dependence on an outside source was holding me back
from independence.
I
find it easier to accept change when I have
initiated it. When someone else initiates
change that affects me, my first reaction is to
resist. However, the Law of Attraction teaches that
everything that touches my life is the result of
some vibration in me. It may be a vibration
I don't like. It may be a subtle vibration I pay
little attention to. It may be a vibration that has
gone underground--like anger or hurt that I did not
acknowledge at the time I first experienced
it.
Emotions
are "energy in motion." When we try to suppress
an emotion (especially one we've judged as negative
or dangerous) it does not go away, it goes into our
subconscious mind where it silently sabotages our
life by setting up resistance which invites more
negative experiences and creates tension between
people who used to enjoy each other.
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"The
greatest disintegrating element in the
human consciousness is resistance."
~Charles Fillmore, The Revealing
Word, 1931
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Resistance
doesn't just put on the brakes to receiving our
desires--Resistance disintegrates; it separates;
it decomposes; it fragments our True Self. We lose
our sense of wholeness. We feel disconnected
from Source (God, the Divine). This disconnection
begins to show up in how we feel about ourselves
and how we relate to others. Soon, we are
quarreling with our best friend and blaming them
for the situation. Sound familiar?
What
can we do about resistance? Is there an
alternative? Should we resist
resistance?
That doesn't work. If we notice resistance and
try to suppress it or resist it--we create
MORE!
The
alternative is acceptance. Not resignation, but
creative acceptance. I teach the history
of the Law of Attraction and it's interesting to
note that in the Middle Ages there was a great
persecution of anyone who held a philosophical
belief that differed from that defined by political
and religious authorities. People who understood
the Law of Attraction, those individuals who
maintained their personal power through controlling
their thoughts and emotions, were faced with a
serious choice: either resist the powers-that-be
and die; comply with the demands of the aggressors,
and deny themselves; or be creative. In that
case, many practitioners of metaphics (the Law of
Attraction) simply moved to Arabia where they found
freedom to live their beliefs in an integral
way.
Change
is bound to happen. People are going to make
choices which affect our lives. We are going to
make choices which have an effect on others.
Charles Handy said, "Change is the only constant."
How we handle change--invited or uninvited--will
affect our vibration and in turn, our quality of
life.
Take
a few moments to notice resistance in your body,
mind or emotions. What does it feel like?
Restriction? Tightness?
Blockage? Frustration? Confusion?
Judgment? Indignation? Yes, all those
feelings are the evidence of resistance.
When
I'm noticing resistance, I ask my Higher Self for
understanding and a creative acceptance. My prayer
will be something like this: "Please
show me the root of my resistance and at the same
time, give me an idea of how to creatively accept
this situation."
The
bottom line is: Change is going to
happen. I'm either going to create resistance or
acceptance. Once choice contributes to the
disintegration of my character and the other
strengthens my sense of wholeness. It's my
choice.
Do
you have a secret dream, desire or
hope?
Contact
Rebecca
to learn how YOU can live your dream!
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